If you are a first time visitor, to make your first time experience as enjoyable as possible we ask that you adhere to these simple commonsense rules. Please read them. Chat room safety is YOUR responsibility, not ours, so we strongly urge that you also read our Chat Room Safety Guide as soon as possible. If you're new to our site, we also suggest that you take a look at our Chat Room Etiquette page.
For your personal safety, do not ask for or give out your last name, address, phone number, email address, passwords or any other personal information to any person in this chat room.
Safety for Everyone: (includes additional reading for parents)
We do our best to maintain a safe environment, but much of that safety must come from your actions, not ours.
We all are eager to make good friends, but slow down. We are here all the time. Making real friends takes time so please take a few weeks or months to get to know someone before you give out personal information. Until then:
Sexual predators are very sneaky people. They seem real nice and will engage you in friendly conversation. Soon they will begin dropping in words and phrases that will steer you into sexual situations and before you know it, you could be in for serious trouble. Keep in mind the following:
Some warning signs to watch for:
Be safe, not sorry. Use the brains God gave you.
This section is for parents:
With regard to the Disabilities-R-Us chat room, children are not permitted. You must be 18 years of age or older to enter. Most of us in the room are in our 30's to 50's and a few in our 80's. We are not a teen dating site and even though we can be a little silly sometimes, we do try to round it out with real discussions about life and world situations.
With regard to other chat sites, here are some things you should consider before allowing your child enter any online chatroom:
DANGER: (the following is quite blunt and may offend bad parents)
Children should not be in chat rooms. Instead, they should be outside playing with friends or doing some other supervised activity that involves fresh air. Most people in chat rooms are adults and who more than occasionally talk about adult subjects -- things children should learn from parents, not strangers in a chatroom.
If your child is under the age of 18 and you allow them to have unsupervised access to a computer -- like in a child's bedroom or basement -- please consider not having anymore children.
"Why is that?" you ask?
We have seen way too many children give just enough information about themselves to where it took only a matter of seconds to get their home addresses and phone numbers. The Internet is not as private as you might think.
Also, and to some parents disbelief, over the years we have had the unfortunate opportunities to assist in having over a dozen unwise testosterone filled young adults hauled off in handcuffs by various state and federal law enforcement agencies for committing serious illegal acts online. The parents lose all their savings to criminal defense lawyers -- and then the fun part happens -- the civil lawsuits begin.
Almost all of the parents of these children lived in denial and believed that their "little angels" were just using the Internet to do homework, talk with buddies, and download cookie recipes. Not so. Many computer literate adolescents like to pretend they are "hackers" and end up getting themselves into all sorts of trouble that you as a parent may have never even conceived of. Again, the Internet is not as private as you might think and some people, when provoked, will retaliate in ways that the child's parent(s) may find physically, emotionally and financially uncomfortable.
It all comes down to this: If you respect your child's privacy online, you're stupid.
Just like real life, there are things that you should and should not do while in a chat room. If you are new to Disabilities-R-Us, these etiquette guidelines should get you off to a good start. Keep in mind that these are not rules, they're just suggestions, the same way people would suggest that you never hug the Queen of England, never chew with your mouth open, and never expect anything good to happen; like all those times when you told your younger sibling to stop looking at you.
In no particular order...
After being an Amazon Affiliate for nearly 25 years, Amazon sent us an email stating that our account has been terminated and they are confiscating all of our income made from the program. The reason given was:
None of this is true. In fact, Amazon has repeatedly stated they have systems in place to make sure this cannot happen. In short, we are being punished for purchases made by customers, which is completely out of our control.
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